If you’re an avid Grey’s Anatomy fan like I am then you know that season 9 episode 1 is almost as hard as season 11 episode 21. If you’re binge watching Grey’s anatomy right now then stop reading this cause i’m about to unload and it will ruin it for you.
Personally I will say this, I prefer House over Grey’s Anatomy, or preferred maybe. Because it was less emotion, more medicine, more puzzles, more wit, and less reflecting. I watched Grey’s because i’m into the big shows, the big movies, the critically acclaimed actors all that. So I gave it a chance and all of a sudden I was sucked in and I couldn’t stop watching. The character I related to the most was Mark Sloan. Not Derek, not Meredith, and not Christina but Mark freaking Sloan. The guy who cheated with his best friends wife and took a beating for it to mend his relationship with his best friend. The man who was looked at as a sex toy and nothing else. The guy who flew across the country for a woman who didn’t want him but stayed because he wanted to be with his best friend. I really connected with Mark when he found his daughter Sloan and gave up everything to be a grand father. Not just any old grandfather, a present one, a grandfather that would step up and prove that he isn’t just a guy who is good for sex.
What made me really push for Mark was when he had a kid with Callie and he made that baby his whole world. Yea, she was with someone else but it was his kid and dammit he wouldn’t let that go. He gave up true love to be a father, to be a father who would love his kid and plan for a future with that kid.
You’re probably reading this and thinking, Riter you’re a sap, it’s just a character. If you’re thinking that then you may or may not have really grasped what or who Mark Sloan represents. If I had to sum it up in one word or two words it would be core value. Sometimes its so easy to get so caught up in whatever is going on in our lives that we start to accept it as reality. So we do what humans do, we adapt and try to live in that box that we created or was created for us. But at our core, at our center, under the epidermis is a heart and it beats and longs for purpose and value. That is what Mark represents. He is the hope in pandora’s box, he is the reformation of Martin Luther, he is the man who everyone thought to be a whore and turned out to be a great father. So when they killed him off, I found myself really processing life and what my core values are and come up with this.
We all need a Mark Sloan experience. To remind us that all the things we are going through, all the things we accept because we feel we can’t change is just smoke. At our core, at our center is someone longing for love, family, and a moment to show our true selves. Maybe you have it all figured out but if you’re like me you’re waiting and fighting for your Mark Sloan moment, where you can step up and say I don’t care what you say or think about me, at my center I am… and this is my time to show that not only to you but to myself.
This is why we all need a Mark Sloan, just a gentle reminder of what really matters in life.