Why we all need a Mark Sloan

If you’re an avid Grey’s Anatomy fan like I am then you know that season 9 episode 1 is almost as hard as season  11 episode 21. If you’re binge watching Grey’s anatomy right now then stop reading this cause i’m about to unload and it will ruin it for you.

Personally  I will say this, I prefer House over Grey’s Anatomy, or preferred maybe. Because it was less emotion, more medicine, more puzzles, more wit, and less reflecting. I watched Grey’s because i’m into the big shows, the big movies, the critically acclaimed actors all that. So I gave it a chance and all of a sudden I was sucked in and I couldn’t stop watching. The character I related to the most was Mark Sloan. Not Derek, not Meredith, and not Christina but Mark freaking Sloan. The guy who cheated with his best friends wife and took a beating for it to mend his relationship with his best friend. The man who was looked at as a sex toy and nothing else. The guy who flew across the country for a woman who didn’t want him but stayed because he wanted to be with his best friend. I really connected with Mark when he found his daughter Sloan and gave up everything to be a grand father. Not just any old grandfather, a present one, a grandfather that would step up and prove that he isn’t just a guy who is good for sex.

What made me really push for Mark was when he had a kid with Callie and he made that baby his whole world. Yea, she was with someone else but it was his kid and dammit he wouldn’t let that go. He gave up true love to be a father, to be a father who would love his kid and plan for a future with that kid.

You’re probably reading this and thinking, Riter you’re a sap, it’s just a character. If you’re thinking that then you may or may not have really grasped what or who Mark Sloan represents. If I had to sum it up in one word or two words it would be core value. Sometimes its so easy to get so caught up in whatever is going on in our lives that we start to accept it as reality. So we do what humans do, we adapt and try to live in that box that we created or was created for us. But at our core, at our center, under the epidermis is a heart and it beats and longs for purpose and value. That is what Mark represents. He is the hope in pandora’s box, he is the reformation of Martin Luther, he is the man who everyone thought to be a whore and turned out to be a great father. So when they killed him off, I found myself really processing life and what my core values are and come up with this.

We all need a Mark Sloan experience. To remind us that all the things we are going through, all the things we accept because we feel we can’t change is just smoke. At our core, at our center is someone longing for love, family, and a moment to show our true selves. Maybe you have it all figured out but if you’re like me you’re waiting and fighting for your Mark Sloan moment, where you can step up and say I don’t care what you say or think about me, at my center I am… and this is my time to show that not only to you but to myself.

This is why we all need a Mark Sloan, just a gentle reminder of what really matters in life.

The Single Friend

When did it happen? There was no 2 minute warning. No 15 minute snooze. You woke up one day and it hit you like a ton of bricks. You’re not the funny friend who makes everyone laugh, the outgoing friend who never turns down a dare, the one your girlfriends call for aa non-fat latte, or the one freind who people love to grab beers with. Nope, you are now the single friend. And sure, you’ll have some people who will say, “there is nothing wrong with being single.” And, they’re right, until there is.

Let’s be real here folks, when you’re the friend who isn’t in a relationship, cozying up with someone next to the fire during winter, or attending multiple Thanksgiving dinners to please both families, you have a disease. You have singleitis, and everyone is quickly trying to get you better. You’re invited to more game nights with Dave or Lisa who just happen to be single and around your age. Or you go out for coffee and all of sudden John or Jane shows up and they just so happen to like Mahler’s 5th. Or the blind dates that everyone sets you up on and not only was it a total bust you couldve spent your money on something you really like to do with someone you actually like. You go out so much after a while you’re tired of it all and just become a homebody, but you can’t afford to stay home, you’re single remember. You can’t meet anyone at home…well maybe with a click of a button; lets not get started on that.You don’t get invited out to certain events, you can’t relate to certain conversations, and everyone and their mothers are getting married. LIKE EVERYDAY!

Well single friends there is hope. While you’re “sick” work on yourself. Read more, workout more, travel more, self-discover more, cook more, learn more, do more and be more. Your time will come. Start to embrace your singleness for all it’s worth. You don’t have to wait by the phone, you don’t have to do the daily check in for check in sakes, you don’t have to share your food or go to that concert that you’re only going because your significant other asked you to. Most importantly, for my frugal friends, you just saved so much money on Valentines Day its crazy. If you really wanted that life size bear go to any store on Feb 15th and get it for half the price. Feb 15th is like the single black Friday, treat yo self. Embrace the single life for what it’s worth, cause when you get yourself right, more people will want to get right with you cause lets face it. It’s okay to be single, until it isn’t.

And to the ones in relationships, we’re not sick, we’re just single.